Catch Up

bear with me as I put all the past weeks in this post...then I hope to post regularly for documentation.
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March 5,

Its been a couple weeks barely since Dave told me
 Dave was home a couple hours after his shift ended so I could go to work. Once I was home from work he mostly avoided us, staying in his office or the bedroom. I went to see if he was working. He was supposed to at 3pm and it was 245.I walked in the bedroom and he was on the phone with Melissa. Within 10 minutes he walked out without saying a word. I called him he said he'd be "back in a damn minute" through text, since he wouldn't answer my call.

a few hours later, turned out he went to her house and was skipping work. He text me asking if he could take the boys? I called him and asked what was up? he wants to take the boys to dinner and met melissa and her kids while out.I very adamently told him NO. that I don't think that is a good idea at all. and had to beg him not to he was very angry but didn't.  He came home about 30 minutes and got his wallet, changed and left.

Sunday, March 6

he didn't come home until 7am. He was supposed to work at 7 am this morning. he said we needed to talk, only we didn't talk very much at all. he was home a few hours, showered, changed and left. saying he was going to get wipers for the truck and gas. advanced auto parts in romulus and gas in wayne and he was gone 3-4 hours.

tuesday march 8

He works til 11 was home after 1 am

Wednesday March 9

he works til 11 was home after 1 am

Thursday March 10

he works til 11 was home after 1 am

Friday march 11

He works til 11 he was home after 4, and only because I had to call and see if he was coming home....continued....

Saturday March 12

I woke up at 340 am for work and he was not here to watch the boys. called his cell at 345 am he didn't answer but text back he is on the way. he walked in the the TRASHED, extremely drunk.  I did make it to work on time but this was not good, not cool at all

his work for afternoon was 3-11 he did not come home after work.

Sunday March 13

I text dave around 6 am to find out if he was working day shift. he didn't come home after work saturday and he was tong to watch the boys so I could go to a baby shower today. He said no he was working today at 3pm.

He came home about 9am with donuts to appear to the kids as if he only went out this morning for the donuts.


at 1120am he informed me he had a "union meeting at noon" and left by 1150am.

The 3 hours he was home he didn't really interact with me, the kids, or us.  He decided not to work today and he did watch the boys so I could go to the shower. by 715pm he was telling me he was going out and left.

Monday March 14

he came home before midnight.

when I got up to take the boys to school i let him know i was gonna go out with a friend, norma.  he was mad and said it was "bullshit". I ent and he was texting and calling all mad the whole time. he left a nasty voice mail, which i kept. 

he worked at 3. the boys and i had the doctors and scouts. he later told me he went to melissas to have dinner as a family with her and her kids. he told me how "nice and happy" it was. 

Tuesday March 15

he was home around 1am we woke up and talked, argued a lil, he left the room and went downstairs. i came to talk and apologize and he was on the phone with melissa. he went to work 11-11

this is when i sucked it up and called  a lawyer for a consoltation.

wednesday March 16

It was an alright day. i tried the acceptance route but once night came my mind wondered and i got upset and texted him. now sure what time he was home but was supposed to work 11-11

Thursday March 17

Fought in the moring bc of an appointment i set up and he showed up for and there was no record of.

friday March 18

he supposed to work 3-11 he didn't work and stayed home in bed all day said he had a headache. kids and i played outside after school, biked and suck. he stayed in bed not communicationg with us at all.

around 930pm he got up and took a shower. I asked if he was going out he got all mad and said what, I can't just take a shower? by 10pm he was walking out.  i sent him a text because he didn't say anything when he left. he told me he was "walking to get air it would be good for his head" I told him the kids and i were out all day he could have had fresh air with us. I heard him come in about 330am

saturday March 19

we met because he had the boys our for breakfast. we went to the sprint store and he bought me a new phone 'out of his profit sharing'because i 'deserve it for helping him be able to work so much last year'  we came home, he let boys know he was going to "work" and left by 3pm. he wasn't working but was gone all night

Sunday March 20

I text him about 9am because we had been up and he hadn't been home or said anything. i asked if he was working at all today. he said he was 'relaxing because his head hurt' he was at melissas but told me to tell the boys he would take them to dinner when he 'got home from work' he was home about 330pm

he stayed hom til we went to bed., he picked a fight with me because I didn't want to talk to him and left.

monday March 21

not sure what time he came home. today is boys pinewood derby. dave had a doctors appointment and we argued.

Tuesday March 22

he came home about 130 am pissed i could tell so i asked he started going off about how I cheat and talk on the phone and take phone calls in the middle of the night. i had no clue what he was talking about. he named a specific person who is my lead at work who yes i have called because of a reoccuring problem at work and I told him that.

we argued the rest of the early morning til i went to work at 430am.

it turned into him telling me "all bets are off" and he was glad "he wasnt the only asshole in this house" we fought again about boys meeting melissa because I said NO WAY!!

Wednesday March23

his work 3-11 he was home about 1230 am we talked and he admitted where she works. he said he wants to move he just is 'not ready' to move yet.

thursday March 24

still fighitng about how I am an asshole for cheating when i still dont know what he is talking about and did nothing of the sort.  I expressed i would never and he seemingly let it go. the we argued about if i was on his computer and how I could get on it. he didn't believe me when i let him know it was left open and yes i looked. he told me he has taken some things to her house already. he keeps whinning about how stressed he is.

Friday march 25

we shopped a lil today for him and the kids and talked kinda opening. after shopping we had a decent day. tonight i discovered where he got the info he thought i was cheating and taking call all hours of the night. he went through my old phone logs.  i had unknow and private calls that i did indeed take. they were when i was helping a friend watching her girls when she took her son to the hospital and was there all night. i was sure to let him know that was what it all was.

it dawned on me today that he 'dated' sarah like half  our marriage :(

Satuday March 26

well i always hate today, he will be there and has no idea why i would be in a lousy mood. sure enough we argued. he was there all night, he was supposed to work 3-11 no idea if he did

Sunday march 27

he came home about 11am and went immediately upstairs. he spent no time with us. he texted me from upstairs a lil BS from time to time fighting. he got mad that i was pissed he was always there. he got on the computer a lil, showed and left for "work" 3-11 no idea if he worked at all.

He later told me he was work 'half day' and to 'leave me(him) alone" he did not come home for dinner or after his half day. kids were asking if he was coming home so I text him he said i was just trying to 'piss him off' i got mad and text him a bit about being mad. he is choosing her over the family, not even so much me but even the kids.

Monday march 28

he was home about 1am and he was mad because i was sleeping on the couch. I got up took the kids to schoool and came home to clean. he got up, dressed and said "im going out" it was 845. turns out he ran an errand for melissa.  ugh that pisses me off!!!